I am so very fortunate in my life. I do not take that for granted. And while no one thing has gone particularly wrong, I occasionally have bad days.
I've been on the mend for the last week. After being sick and somewhat out of commission I've had a really difficult time getting back into the groove of things. I've been feeling a bit more stressed out than usual in both my personal and work life, and I was quickly headed for a sadness disaster.
I've been here before, I know that this is a temporary feeling, but it sure doesn't feel good. Sadness for me seems to compound to the point where I'm almost paralyzed, unable to function at work, no appetite, no desire to see friends or family. All that seems appealing is cuddling with my dog and binge watching "This is Us." In case you haven't seen the show, it's not exactly the best option for pulling yourself out of a rut!
Needless to say it has been a rough week. I have been struggling with things in my personal life and they seem to have taken on a larger and more prominent form.
So what can you do to turn around your bad day? How can we pull ourselves out of a funk?
Well, for one, it's OK to be sad. It's OK to want to have some alone time, to think things through. I myself take time out to cry. To let it all out. I've learned over the years that I do not have to justify self care. It is OK to have a mental health day. Some days I just want to cuddle up under my duvet and stay there all day. It may not always be easy to take the time from work, but I do try to make it a priority to take a time out. It is really important that we take care of ourselves, both physically and mentally. Every once in a while it is OK to hit the reset button. The trick is learning to find the time. Once you do, you'll see just how much better you'll feel.
Another tip I've come to appreciate is just how much a difference getting dressed and ready for day makes. When I am in a rut I do my best to get out of bed, shower and get ready. This can be difficult because most of the time warm blankets and Netflix seems 1000 times more appealing. But getting up and getting myself to the shower has an almost immediate positive effect on my mood. Putting a little bit of effort into your appearance will help you feel refreshed.
Committing to your plans/or making plans is next on the agenda. For example, I'm feeling particularly bad today but I made dinner plans with an old colleague and friend. Seeing others and having an opportunity to get your mind off of the things that are bothering you is actually very helpful and therapeutic. I am so grateful for my tribe of friends who are always there to talk me off the ledge. Having them around is like chicken soup for my soul.
Which leads me to my next tip... talk to someone. I seemingly call my best friends a few times a week to vent/brainstorm etc. A lot of times they talk me through my internal struggles. I may not always agree with the advice that they give, but I always listen. And afterwards, no matter the outcome of the conversation, I always feel so grateful for their love and guidance.
Once you talk things out, do something fun that will put you in a good mood. For me, that involves picking up a cone of Ricotta and Honey gelato at The Bent Spoon in Princeton, or a small bouquet of flowers from the farmers market. Maybe you are in need of a blowout at your salon, or an impromptu yoga class. Anything, big or small will do the trick. Doing something that will excite you may seem small in nature but it has a major effect on your overall mental wellbeing.
Finally, and perhaps most importantly, think positive thoughts. Surround yourself with good energy and reaffirm all the good things happening in your life. I like to think of my brain as a library of old film. You know the vintage kind that was played on a movie projector. Yes, that is what I envision the inside of my brain to look like. That library of films contains both good and bad memories. Sometimes we inundate ourselves with negative thoughts and memories that make us sad. I've learned it is useful to put those things that make us feel bad at the back end of the library. I try to stay as positive as I can. I surround myself with things that are both beautiful and uplifting.
Don't let your sadness overshadow all of the good in your life. Things won't always shake out perfectly, but that is life. All that is left to do is stay focused on what matters and maintain an open mind and heart.
Love and Light Always.
Stephanie, The Little Lady