Can you believe it? I've been reminiscing on my twenties... the traumatic, painful, exciting, and difficult years that preceded entering my newest decade. And yet, while my twenties have allowed me to experience a rollercoaster of emotions, I am so grateful to have had it all. And so as another birthday has come to pass, I've realized there is much I have learned in the last decade, and yet there is excitement that lingers in me knowing that the best is yet to come. Here are a few things I have figured out about turning thirty...
1. You Know Yourself
I look back on the last ten years and I barely recognize the person I was when I was 21- 25 years old. Turning thirty, I have made decisions to prioritize what means the most to me and to seek out my ultimate truth and happiness. It doesn't get much better than that!
2. You Find Your Squad
I'm talking the real, got-your-back, zero judgement, talk about anything kind of friends. I have learned to be appreciative of my little tribe... they are my people and they mean the world to me. Friends make life better. A good, loyal friend is not only good company but also someone you can always rely on. It feels pretty good to be surrounded by those few special ones we really connect with and who really know and love us for who we are, flaws and all. This is the family we pick to make the whole journey with us, and I feel blessed to have found mine.
3. Fear No More
There comes a point where you have to stop worrying. I feel like I was worried ALL THE TIME when I was in my twenties. I've realized it's OK to speak up at work, to confront uncomfortable situations with positivity and a can-do spirit, and most of all to speak my truth. Doing so has liberated me in a way I can barely express.
4. You Appreciate Great Wine.
No need for a lengthy description.
5. You Will Never Regret Making Memories Over Money
Simply stated, you cannot take money with you and you will never regret the trip you took with your hubby or best friend or sister. Make memories... it's all we have and all we are left with. Over the last ten years I have seen a lot of the world-- and yet so much of it awaits my arrival. I have been incredibly lucky and I hope that my thirties will bring me new joy and adventure.
6. You Love Your Family Harder
Love hard. Love with all of your being. It is THE key to happiness.
7. You Are Braver Than You Think
Your twenties are full of moments of uncertainty or doubt. I've realized that I am braver than I think and I am capable of just about anything I set my mind to.
8. Wear SPF 50 On Your Face. DO NOT FORGET.
Translation: A short term tan is not worth the long-term wrinkles.
9. Respect and Compromise is the Basis of Your Relationship
When the honeymoon period turns into something deep and different, it is nothing to fear. You discover friendship, support, and love that is immeasurable. If you are lucky, like me, you will hold onto it and cherish it for the rest of your life.
10. Life is Only Beginning
Breath it in my friend. You are not old, you are young. You are not a mess. You are normal, extraordinary perhaps. In the blink of an eye your life will change. And it will continue to change for decades to come. Enjoy it, embrace it... be grateful for the ride. You are not old, you are young. And faith will get you everywhere. Just you wait.
And finally... just a quick thank you to all that reached out by phone, e-mail, text, Facebook, Instagram, etc. It means the world to me.
Love and Light.